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Thursday, May 21, 2009


I was going to post my Mama Kat assignment like I do every Thursday, but then something awesome happened, and I decided it was too perfect not to pay immediate attention to.

But, since I've always been an overachiever in the student department, I decided that I would attend to both.

I NEVER miss an assignment.

So, to answer your question, MK. What have I been too busy to pay attention to lately?

My kids, of course.

This was supposed to be a casual, pre-summer splash in the water table.

It quickly turned into a full blown "swim" in the water table.

I was actually doing something other than blogging when this went down.

At least, dinner got made and no one was crying, complaining, or begging to be held while it was happening.

Good times.

But, that was not even the most awesome part of yesterday afternoon.

On Wednesday, May 20, 2009, I received my first batch of blog hate!

And, here it is...

Courtesy of one terri_liebegott:

" you have any idea how ovensive you sound to other people (like Myself) who have celebrated many more birthdays than you ( as you put it an old-give-it up lady)? As if you come to some kind of a relevation about becoming older and actually confident at have a long long way to go. Have you heard the news, they actally let people in their 60s and 70s into bars? And I might add they have every right to be there. wow"

It's from another, local blog that I write for (gotta click link to read original post).

Now, if you clicked on the link, and read the original post, and then took the effort to attempt to muddle through this highly illogical, grammatically incorrect, commentary featuring enough spelling errors to make you wanna puke a little, then you have certainly ('cause my readers are frickin' smart) concluded that she is a little off base with her accusation that this post is ovensive (aka offensive).

My point was clearly that getting old does not happen at 30 (as I mistakenly assumed back when I was 21), it happens when you let it; when you feel it.

Additionally, I am much more confident than I was at 21, which was also a part of my original point.

And, finally, based on what I saw this past weekend, they certainly do let 60 & 70 year olds into bars, and they should totally stop (now, THAT was ovensive o-f-f-e-n-s-i-v-e).

Maybe I am overreacting to this whole incident (shoulda heard what Mimi had to say about my blogger hater).

I realize it comes with the territory (you know, of being awesome).

But, what chaps my hide about this whole deal is that my meaning was TOTALLY misconstrued.

I will agree that I am (at times) offensive.

For example, try reading this. Or this. Or, ooohh, this is a naughty one.

And, wait until you see what I have to say about a little imp on my son's bus.

But, this particular post was anything but offensive.

Enlightening, mature, sentimental, yes.

Offensive, come on lady.

Even my retort was more offensive than the original post...

"Awesome! I always love when people totally misconstrue my blog posts because they either have no sense of humor, or just don't take the time to fully read it. But, let me re-explain myself so that everyone can fully understand my point. The original point was that as I have come to be an older individual I am no longer the 21 yo know it all workin' the dance floor. Those comments were from my 21 yo perspective (preceded appropriately by the phrase, "I recall...). I was reflecting on my former self, not so much my current (still w/a lot to learn, I'll give you that) self. I was noting that at 21 I was incapable of seeing that the 31, & 41, & 51 year olds at the bar were not living their lives on the dance floor, as I was at the time. I could not appreciate their existence in my world then. Furthermore, I was seeking to focus on the fact that my confidence has greatly improved after having the many experiences that I have since my 21yo bar hopping days. I now am the 30ish woman who enters the bar and cares not what the younger, skinnier, chicks think. All I care about now is having fun. And, I am well aware that they let older people into the bar, I just haven't had many opportunities to experience them since I have grown up a bit as I spend little time at the bar and lots of time working, growing, and caring for my family. Your bad for misunderstanding. And, if you'd like to be further offended, please visit my other website:, I even curse on it!"

So. All I can say is IN. YO. FACE!


Nori D said...

Lol! Love or hate, at least they're talking about you right?! This hate mail is a good sign lol!!

By the way, thanks for passing by =)
Great blog!

Anonymous said...

lol, at the very least it's something to laugh at! you've affected it for good or bad, it means the writing's good!!
thanks for stopping by my page :-)
if you'd like to follow it that'd be cool too!! ;-)
p.s. your kids are adorableeee!!

TKW said...

I started laughing as soon as I saw "ovensive."

That's all you need to know right there.

Life with Kaishon said...

I love the super star song : ). So cool! Your kids are SO cute in the pool! LOVE the knee socks and the diaper! You are a SUPER STAR Mommy : ).

bearer of three said...

I love your kids they are soooo cute...and on another note..who cares about your haters...haters make you famous...I am 24 and I am dreding being 30 and I am sure that when i am 30 I will dred being mom is 44 and fabulous and is dredding turning 50...soooo for your hater tell her its your blog and you write as you please and if she doesnt like it she doesnt have to read it lol

Melissa said...

Thanks for stopping by my site, causing me to come to yours, and see the knee socks with the diaper with croc shoes!!I love it!!!

Tyra Banks and her face tension and fierceness can shut it with Caillou. My sister and I spend our time in the bars ruining the one handed pics. Our goal is to become famous as the random background weirdos.

And congrats for the hater mail. You are hilarious, ovensive, honest and love reading your posts!

Jenny said...

Oh your kids are so cute playing in the water.

Sorry about the blogger hate, That Ovensive made me laugh out loud though.

Jen said...

the same thing happens here when we do the water table thing.

Kim said...

I hate to admit it but, it took me a minute to figure out what OVENSIVE meant. I did click and I did enjoy your post! I am 4 months away from 45 but I aint hatin! Keep up the good work!

Musings of the Mrs. said...

Blog hater comments are pretty much the BEST to read about. Have you ever noticed that every single one has spelling and grammatical errors? Its really an amazing subset of the human race: those who read a blog, disagree and then MUST COMMENT NOW!!!

Unknown Mami said...
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Unknown Mami said...

Oh man, I think "ovensive" is just going to become a part of my vocabulary. It's just too crazy! I am glad I found your blog. I find you awesome, not ovensive at all.

Mrs. S said...

Your kids are SO stinking cute! Love the knee socks. Where did you get the water table? My son would ADORE that!

And as for the hate comment, let it slide off your back. Some people (and usually ones with no grammatical tact) just have to have their say. I don't bar hop, but I think that when you're 60 or 70 you shouldn't be in a bar except one from the Golden Girls. And I may not be "old" by any standards (I'm 23)...except teenagers...I think that since I had my son, I've grown more mature and have some things to share with those younger and even older moms just by having children.

Anonymous said...

Ooo, Isn't hate mail fun? And isn't it funny that nine times out of ten it isn't even your most offensive or controversial posts?

Jozet at Halushki said...

I LOVE that line about getting old happens when you let it! I want that on a coffee mug or t-shirt or something.

Or maybe on my undies, if that's not too ovensive.

Anyway, your kids are stinking adorable! omg, what cuties! How could you blog anything with those adorable faces to look at? :-)

Mommy of Many said...

love this post.....ovensive sounds like my 3 year old's attempt at mimicking an adult conversation, LOL

and the water table picks are too cute, my kids turn any chances at water to a day at a mini-pool be young again!

Shawn said...

Wow! I haven't had a blog hater yet and I'm glad that I have your response now to go by. I probably would have curled up and cried to myself and not blogged for awhile..but you just totally showed how to rock it out!

I'm older than you but that was perfect!

Carey-Life in the Carpool Lane said...

I love those pics! What cute boys!

I guess you've hit the big time when you start getting hate comments. Too bad it couldn't have been from someone with more than half a brain! LOL

Thanks for stopping by my blog!

ck said...

I hope this was a "to be continued..."

Because I'd love to read more banter between you and the English Professor.

Dee said... probably is a trouble maker kid writing it or someone who lacks education with grammar and spelling. LOL

to me...I have to ignor idiots like that because of their own immaturity and ignorance and most likely they are having the joy of psssssing people off.

Well at least I hope they know why the middle finger was created for!


Safe hugz,
A Mom's Journey

Mary Katherine said...

Your kids. Their hair! So gorgeous!!!!

otherworldlyone said...


Love it.

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